I was out on my Pony this afternoon, having a lovely gallop along a grassy track. Absolutely perfect until a disgruntled walker pulled me over for a telling off. I was on a small pony so in hindsight I expect she thought I was a child. She certainly shouted at me as though I was and she gave me a real piece of her mind about me galloping on fields that were wet and the impact I would have on them, also about showing more respect for dog walkers and it went on…
On reflection I could see that maybe there was a small amount of merit in terms of her concerns about galloping on wet fields (but they weren’t her fields) and slowing down for walkers (but I had done that). But the way she spoke to me was aggressive and very confrontational.
The great thing to come out of it all was that I felt so pleased with my reaction. I simply stopped and let her rant. Then I told her she looked like she was doing a brilliant job picking up litter, because she was. Then I wished her a nice walk and I really meant it. Then I carried on with my ride and really enjoyed myself.
If I hadn’t been so mindful I could have entered into an argument with this walker. She didn’t own the field and had no right to speak to me the way she did. I could have got really really wound up about her and I could have retaliated but what good would that have done?
Because of my mindfulness I was able to stand back and observe her anger and react in a way that was patient and kind. I didn’t aggravate the situation by interrupting her or fighting back and as a result I smiled for the rest of my ride. When you are happy with your reactions and your behaviour it really gives peace of mind that leads to happiness.
Mindfulness allows us to turn the most difficult of situations into circumstances to practice our new found skills. The way in which we react to others is a true measure of how mindful we are in that moment. Next time someone tries to rattle your cage see if you can be mindful in your response.
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