For me today seemed like the start of the countdown to Christmas. I taught a Christmas focussed meditation and mindfulness session at Loughborough Library and then afterwards I took Noah to meet Santa at the Playgroup Christmas fete. It was a really lovely morning.
The mindfulness session was great and after an hour of relaxing meditation and mindfulness practise everyone was keen to chat and to ask questions which was lovely.
We nipped into the fete to see Santa just before lunch and I think we were his last customers. Noah was nervous to start and clung to me a bit. Despite our late arrival and Noah’s nerves Santa really took his time getting Noah to talk to him. He asked him about his year, his behaviour and about his favourite toys.
It got me thinking about how important it is to have a keen interest in others. It really is the way to better communication, relationships and happiness. Just by spending that extra time taking to Noah, Santa got so much more out of him. It was a really lovely experience to see.
Now that we are entering the festive season there will be lots of occasions where socialising is the focus. Many of us feel uncomfortable with this and we can find ourselves standing in a room of people wishing that our best friend was there so we could cling to them rather than having to mix.
If that sounds familiar then try this…
Start with the intention of finding out more about other people. By doing this conversation will come much more easily. You will realise that most people love to talk about themselves when they have an interested audience. You will find out all sorts, what they do, where they live, who they know. You will learn lots, have a much better time, and will be happy because you are engaged in the moment.
It can be tough to start with but keep your intention in mind and go for it. As soon as you start to see the amazing results that being interested brings you will start to apply it to all sorts of areas of your life. Asking questions is so often the answer.
Come on a Revitalise Day to get more ideas for how mindful living can improve situations that you find challenging. It is amazing how a calm mind and a bit of perspective can help to change the way you see things.