Conversation is one of the things that gets us through life. How skilled we are in the art of conversation impacts on our success. Whether it is a deep and meaningful with a loved one or a negotiation with someone over a business issue, the outcome will depend on how we behave.
Mindfulness teaches us to step back from the mental chatter that often goes on whilst we are involved in conversation. Often as the other person is talking we run through in our minds how we are going to respond. If we are in a situation where we perceive conflict some of us actually attempt to interrupt to get our point of view across as soon as we can.
This mental chatter, and perhaps preoccupation with what we want to say, can stop us listening to the other person properly. We may also become distracted by remembering past events. This can prevent us getting to a successful outcome.
If we can learn to take a step back and actually listen to what the other person is actually saying we can be more skilful in our discussion. We can focus our responses on the points that the other person is raising as concerns, which will then help lead us onto common ground.
We all know how frustrating it is when we are In a discussion and the other person seems to be making irrelevant points or trying to interrupt. We need to listen properly to stand the best chance of a good outcome.
Less is more, talk less but make it more relevant to what the other person is saying. Stay quiet whilst they talk and really listen to what they are saying. This has a double benefit, the other person feels valued and we have the time to listen and then really understand properly what points we need to make to them. We can often be much more skilful in how we address the concerns of the other person.
A regular meditation practice can provide us with the skills to really listen to others, to be more clear thinking and to have the clarity of mind to articulate ourselves well, in in what can be potentially stressful situations.
Come on a revitalise day to get started with mindfulness and begin to enjoy the benefits of better conversation.