Ruby Wax is still inspiring me with her book Sane New Word. Last night I was reading the chapter about depression.
Ruby’s recommends that sufferers of depression should club together to support each other. She makes the really good point that a fellow sufferer will discuss treatments, feelings, therapy and everything else connected with the illness with much more genuine interest and stamina than sympathetic friend who has never been through the same thing.
I was reflecting on this and thinking how similar this is to my situation with MS. My friends and family who don’t have the disease are sympathetic and listen and are lovely. But when I meet with my friend who has MS, and has made the same lifestyle adjustments as I have, to over come the disease, then we can talk for hours and on a deeper level.
The reason it works so well to support another in the same position is that we have true empathy. We really understand the situation they are going through because we have been there. Because we have been there we can place ourselves in the moment that they are in and in that way offer the best possible support.
It strikes me that Mindfulness is at the heart of this approach. When we are truly interested in something we can give it our whole focus and can be present in the moment. Whether we are the supporter or the one in need of support this is exactly what is needed in difficult moments.
The support approach works so well. If you provide support to another suffering in the same way that you have then you feel good for your efforts. If you are being given the support then the understanding that you are given will mean the world to you.
Whatever you are suffering with Mindfulness is a great place to start on the road to getting things back on track. By calming the mind and the body the next steps become so much more possible. You are able to see more clearly and reach out to find a resolution.
If you would like to get started with some Mindfulness training to help you relax and focus your mind then book onto a Revitalise Session.