For me and for many others yesterday was filled with Facebook friends making known their views on the EU referendum result. Personal views and strong opinions were brandished about and at times they bordered on being abusive and insulting to others. Emotions were running high!
I saw a really lovely, usually calm, friend of mine after work and she was feeling tearful because she felt that many of her friends would be anti her if they knew how she voted. She was almost feeling ashamed of her views because of what other people were saying.
So it was really refreshing when Martyn and I went to our local pub later on and we met a group of friends for a drink. We were able to have a discussion about the vote and about both sides without it becoming at all personal and with a level of understanding on both points of view.
Mindfulness practise has really helped me through the whole referendum process. Rather than feeling panicked about how to vote or pressured into one vote of the other I was able to take my time and make my own mind up.
Rather than feeling the need to publish my views on it on social media I have kept my voting decision private. This approach has left me more content with myself and has avoided any disputes with friends. I don’t want others to think I am criticising their beliefs, everyone is entitled to their own view.
After the referendum result has faded from the agenda my priority is that my friendships are in tact. It should be a priority for our country that people feel that they have a real choice in how they vote and that they don’t feel pressured and anxious about the experience.
When the decision was announced yesterday I was shocked. I was also emotional, which I was not expecting. But I knew if I calmed myself through meditation my thoughts would ease off and my emotion would become less intense. This coping mechanism when things get heated is a great tool for making sure you keep your cool and keep your friends.
If you are feeling the after effects of a big decision, and are struggling to cope, then come on a Revitalise Session to learn the tools to help you get through. Some simple techniques are all you need.