Every Friday the beer gets delivered to our local pub. A big Carlsberg lorry comes and completely blocks my way through to the stables. This situation has the potential for impatience to arise, for frustration to rear its head and to ruin relations. However, because the men who deliver the beer are so lovely completely the opposite has happened.
Kev and Baz take the lorry round the pubs in the area and they seem so cheerful, I am sure they enjoy their work. They arrive at our pub between 8 and 9 in the morning, just the sort of time I am usually out riding. I start work at 10 so it can be a bit of a close call getting back from my ride and getting ready for work. The last thing I need is a half an hour delay at the start of my day.
I have learnt to adjust my routine and get my ride done before I muck out which gives me a chance to get out of the way before the lorry arrives. I do my ride whilst they unload the lorry and they are finished by the time I return. It seems to work pretty well. I sometimes see the lorry on it’s way as I am riding out of the village and we now greet each other with a cheery wave.
This friendly relationship may seem like a small thing but it makes the world of difference. It means that I look forward to seeing the lorry rather than dreading it getting in my way. It means a cheerful exchange rather than a tense one.
Mindfulness really helps with building good relationships. When we are clear minded we can appreciate the needs of others. We can understand that everyone has a job to do and that cooperation is the best way forward. Mindfulness can take us from tunnel vision, focused on our own needs,to a wider perspective which allows us to realise how we can help others.
A cheerful disposition can go so far in making good relationships and when we are mindful we are happy more often. Happiness is contagious so smile and be pleasant and you will have ‘Probably The Best Relationships In The World’.