As I write this blog Noah, our 3 year old is on the iPad watching Frozen. Martyn, my husband is on his iPad looking at Facebook. I am on the iMac typing away. With all the devices we now have that make the internet so accessible it is so easy for family time to slip into this. A quiet room with everyones eyes fixed on a screen.
Of course, the internet is amazing and it can be so educational and really practical for communicating with others. What we need to recognise is that it has limits and that real interaction with other people who are actually in the same room is necessary for a happy and healthy relationships.
Thankfully before Apple took over our afternoon we have been on a trip to the park.
We had a lovely time out in the sunshine. As Martyn and I stood either side of Noah pushing him back and forth on the swing we really were present in the moment. Noah was giggling and was in his element having the full attention of both of his parents at the same time.
Of course in real life we can’t always give our children as much attention as they want but taking the chance to spend some quality time together as often as we can is very important. For many of us our lives are busy and we miss the opportunity to do this. Even when you do go out as a family it is very easy to waste the opportunity because your mind is elsewhere. Maybe checking your emails on your phone, maybe putting pictures on Facebook.
When our lives are so busy our minds are hectic too. It can be really difficult to unwind and enjoy times where we have the opportunity to relax. Mindfulness is a great way to get to know your mind. By spending just a few minutes a day on yourself you can get your mind into a calm and clear state so that you really can focus on family time when you manage to achieve some.
Next time you have some family time ahead of you make a decision to be really interested in your family. Leave your phone at home and give them your full attention. Think of each member of your family and focus on finding out how they are and what they are enjoying doing. It sounds so simple but how often do you actually do it?
Come on a Revitalise Day to learn some simple brain training techniques that will help you to switch off when you want to. It really will make a huge difference to your life and will help you to enjoy everything you do, even more.