Last week Noah’s Granddad and his wife, Jill, took Noah for a day out at Twycross Zoo.
He had an amazing time and told me all about the experience when he got home.
For his Birthday, which was the week before, he was given some money. Before he went out I put a five pound note in his wallet and told him to use it if he wanted something from the shop.
He came home with the penguin magnet which he has been delighted with ever since. He keeps changing it’s location and is so pleased when he finds something new for it to stick to.
The reason he is so pleased with the magnet is that he chose it and bought it himself. He felt like a grown up.
Allowing children the opportunity to make choices and to have the independence to spend their own money is fostering a really valuable life skill.
By letting them have an appropriate amount of independence they learn how to make choices that they are happy with and this really builds their confidence.
As a parent it can be very tempting to try to control the things that they buy and to transfer our own views onto them. Learning to watch and to let them make their own decisions can be a really challenge.
Obviously it is important to make sure that the time is right to simply observe, but once we are sure that they aren’t going to do much damage it is a really good learning experience for them, and probably for you too!
If you feel that you could do with the skills to allow your off spring more freedom then mindfulness could really help.
By training your brain you could become much better at assessing risk and then allowing life to take it’s course without your interference. Once you master this skill you will realise that it is actually really liberating.
Come on a Revitalise Session to see how mindfulness could help you to become a better observer. You will be amazed at the situations that seem so much easier once you have this ability!