Today I was reading a magazine article about fear of not measuring up. It was written in a comical way but it really struck a chord with me.
Think through your day so far. What have you been afraid of?
Here’s my list..
Not having had enough sleep. I’d hate to wear myself out.
My friend being annoyed that I hadn’t returned her phone that she left in my handbag last night. I can’t bear the thought i’ve let her down.
Not being productive – I hate to waste my day.
Not having heard from a friend I text yesterday – why not – It would be awful to fall out!
Having had too much caffeine. I never want to overdo it.
Not having been for a run. I never want to waste the good weather.
What I have to fit in tomorrow. I dread being late and I have a 7.30am session to deliver.
All sorts of fears go through our minds every day. Most of them completely unnecessary. None of the above really matter.
Trying to stop these thoughts just doesn’t work. Trying to achieve a clear mind is just another plan that can leave you feeling like a failure if you get too focussed on it.
Actually a change of approach is much more effective. Meditation is what sorts me out. But not with view to stopping my thoughts. Rather it is a way to let things settle.
The niggles will still crop up but rather than fighting with them I just give my self a chance to sit for a while and learn to rest with what is. Not trying to change it, just giving myself time to accept it.
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