Today I went out to the shops with Noah and my Mum. We headed to TK Max on a local retail park, sure that it would deliver all that I needed as I start to tackle my Christmas Shopping. I had a slight feeling of urgency lurking following my failure to buy anything on Black Friday.
Try as I might I could just not see the perfect present for anyone. Noah was the star shopper. He found his friend Sam the perfect sword in the pound shop that was next door to TK Max.
I had a really lovely morning pottering but I came home without any Christmas presents. It is really unusual for me not to have my Christmas Shopping done in November. Usually I am an early bird with my shopping habits.
I really am looking forward to Christmas and I really love giving gifts. I think that the difficulty is, that over the last few months I have changed my mindset. I have become much more Minimalist.
My shopping habit has been stopped in it’s tracks, I have trained myself not to buy. Now to ask my mind to accept going out and buying lots of things is pushing it. It is a challenge. I see everything as clutter that people don’t really need! I can feel the mental barrier that is in the way.
So I have been thinking, since I got home, that I need to reflect on this mental barrier that I have created. I have decided that I need to change my focus. Mindfulness should help me with this. I train my mind daily to focus. And I think this is part of the reason why the barrier is so strong, but is should also help with changing my approach.
Rather than thinking about the things as clutter I need to concentrate on the experiences that I am creating. Maybe I can be creative for some people and give experiences rather than things, perhaps a meal out rather than a cook book.
Maybe I can, at least for the children, recognise that unwrapping things is exactly what they love. If the experience of unwrapping is at the heart of Christmas then I can focus on this and make the gifts that I buy as suitable as possible and beautifully wrapped.
Here starts my new approach!
If you have a mental barrier to address then Mindfulness could really help you on your way. Brain training is a powerful tool and sometimes a change in focus is all that you need!