Yesterday I got a text from an old friend, Anneliese. I went to law school with her and we were still great friends when Martyn and I got married. She lives in London and time has crept along and I haven’t seen her now since I was pregnant with Noah. 3 years! I have tried a few times to get in touch and she has been busy. It meant so much to me to get a message from her, I was really pleased to hear she was doing well and I can’t wait to meet up again.
Also over the weekend my lovely friend Hannah who lives 10 minutes away called in and I haven’t seen her for weeks! Despite how well we get on and how close we live to each other time flies when we are both busy with work and our families. She was on her bike and we went off on a ride together – me on Ladybird her peddling at our side! We had the best Saturday afternoon I have had in ages.
Both these happenings got me thinking about friendships and how our thoughts can impact on them. Sometimes it can be easy to get into a quiet grump with friends. This can happen if we feel like we haven’t seem them enough or they haven’t bothered with us for a long time. It is so easy to slip into blaming them rather than understanding them. We can get the wrong impression and this can build up in our minds. Our internal dialog can take us down all sorts of routes.
Having an calm open mind and a balanced outlook changes everything. You can understand that others have demands in their lives, they too get caught up in what is going on for them. If you can appreciate this it means that when you do get a few hours or even just a few minutes free to catch up you really make the most of it.
When I saw Hannah it was like we had seen each other yesterday, we did not stop talking the whole time we were together. When I meet Anneliese again i’m positive it will be exactly the same. No funny business, no worries, just sheer joy to see each other.
So if you have a friend who you love but you miss send them a message, make their day! You will feel so much better for getting in touch.