Last night a group of my lovely friends came round for dinner at our house. They always joke that it is a vegetable feast when I cook, about 20 in one meal – rather than the recommended 5 a day.
In many ways we are an odd bunch of friends, quite different to each other but all having met and bonded through our love of running.
Until a few years ago we used to run together at least 2 or 3 times a week with our local club but for different reasons we have all faced challenges with carrying on with this routine.
For me, and for a couple of others, doing too many miles and too many races wasn’t good for our general well being. I had to recognise this impact on my body and mind to maintain good health. I was simply over doing it.
Cutting down was a real challenge for me, I was properly addicted to the miles! Sharing this experience with those who know and understand this first hand makes such a difference. Listening to their experiences, which in many ways have been similar, is somehow soothing.
Having such amazing friends has really helped me through my period of going cold turkey with the big miles! I think I am finally content (ish) with my 30 minute morning runs.
When we meet we have so much to talk about because now we all fill our time doing such different things. Yoga, spinning, the gym, diet, slimming club, TV, films, work and riding were just some of the conversations that we shared last night. Everyone seemed so interested and gripped by every single conversation.
If you loose a common interest with your friends don’t let it be the end of the friendship. Keep in touch. Be interested in what else they do, you will be amazed how you share more than you may first have thought.
Mindfulness can help you to have the clarity of though to do this and the communication skills to make it work.
Listening more to your friends can make your friendships so much stronger. Over time your understanding builds to such a level that you know each other so well, this means you can really empathise when things are tough and really share each other joy when things are going well.
Amazing and so fulfilling.
Come on a Revitalise Day to see how mindfulness could help your friendships. We all go through tough times in life and having the mechanisms and the friendships to get you through is so important.