Noah and I went away last week with my Mum. We had a lovely time in Padstow and in many ways were were really sad to end our holiday together. However, when I got home it was really lovely too.
Martyn, my husband had clearly been missing me and Noah!
He had made an amazing effort to do jobs around the house so that it was nice for us when we got back. He had bought us a new quilt and pillows, we had crisp clean sheets on the bed, the house was clean and tidy. It was such a lovely surprise. To top it all off he came home with a gorgeous bunch of flowers.
We too had missed him whilst we were away and we had come back with some Cornish presents for him.
Having a break from each other had done our relationships the world of good. Rather than simply co existing we have been really engaged again. Since we got back we have had good conversation and have really enjoyed each other’s company more fully. We both had tales to tell from our time apart and this gave us good reason to catch up with each other in a way we perhaps don’t usually mange.
It got me thinking about why having a break is so good for a relationship.
I think it is because once you are back together you are present in the moment for each other. When we have been together at home for some time, in many ways we start to take each other for granted. We can go onto autopilot in our relationships. We bring home the worries from our day and we forget to give our partners our full attention and simply muddle on day by day.
Going away for a week isn’t necessary if you want to revitalise your relationship, a difference in your way of thinking can be enough. Looking at our relationships with fresh eyes is a great way to be more mindful in them. Learning to pay more attention is the key. Try starting conversations with your partner and showing more interest in what they have been doing. Try doing something kind for them to make their life nicer. Thinking of others really does do us the world of good.
Taking time to meditate each day is a great way to be clear in your thinking. When you think more clearly you can remember to pay attention to your relationships on a more regular basis and you will soon notice the difference it makes.
Come on a Revitalise Day to get to grips with meditation and to get a better understanding about how you can keep your interest in the relationships in your life. Keeping things fresh and interesting is a life skill rather than a matter of luck. Sometimes our approach to life makes all the difference. The day retreat is the perfect opportunity to get some perspective on your life and to recognise what is important to you and how you are best to approach it.