During my lunch break today a colleague popped into the office to ask if I could move my car because I was blocking her in. She caught me at a good moment. I had just done a 10 minute meditation and I had time on my side as I was on a break so I was feeling particularly calm and mindful. I asked her how she was and where she was off to. She said she was off to see her mum who is in a home. Her mum has Alzheimers and so she said it wasn’t an easy visit to be making.
We only chatted for a couple of minutes whilst we walked to the car park but it was really good to connect with her in that moment. It got me thinking… so many of us spend our days consumed in what is going on in our own little world, we carry on with tunnel vision. We totally forget to think about everyone else and we fail to notice what is affecting them.
This can be especially easy to do in the context of work. You go to the office and it can be really difficult to remember that everyone has a life outside of the work place. Everyone has something that they are coping with. Many of us put a brave face on it at work but if you take the time to talk then you may well get a better idea of how your colleagues really are.
Taking the time to ask after another, and to be really interested in their answer, is so worthwhile. If you find out what is going on for others then you build closer connections and real friendships.
There are bound to be times when you need support, in some way, and to be able to offer it to others when they need it is really special. Often just a listening ear is all it takes to help. It is about letting another person know that you care, that can be enough.
When you find time for others It totally puts into perspective your own worries. Even when your worries are significant it can help just to know that you are not alone in having issues.
Mindfulness can allow you to create some head space for yourself and that way that you have the ability to be more caring towards others. Taking just 10 minutes in your lunch break to sit and allow yourself some time to relax and unwind is the perfect way to get started. Simply sitting in the quiet and focussing on your breath is a great way to start. Each time your mind wanders simply bring your attention back to your breath.
Come on a Revitalise Day to become confident in using meditation techniques to improve your state of mind. You will be amazed at the benefits it will bring, to you and to others.