Today was my nephew’s 9th Birthday.
We had a lovely Birthday tea for him and he was really great company. He was delighted with all of his presents and was careful to say thank you. He was great with his little sister and younger cousin, helping them to enjoy his special day too.
It got me thinking about the great periods of change in his short life.
When he first had a little sister he was a bit of a terror. He was a bit rough with her and found the competition of a sibling difficult to handle. Then she grew and learnt how to handle him and things got better, now they are really close.
When he first started school he found it difficult to know how to ask other children to play with him and often caused upset instead. Then as time went on he started to learn how to mix and he started to enjoy playing with others and now he is popular in a large group of friends.
Then he started to play football, joined a team and got really fit. Now he has a busy social life and he thrives on being active. His confidence has grown and he is the most lovely boy ever!
So in 9 years he seems to have learnt so much! Through all of the difficult stages all that has been needed is love and patience. Just by being there for him, watching and waiting his parents have guided him gently in becoming a really lovely boy.
With parenting it seems that often less is more. Allowing our children to find their own way can be difficult but it is usually the best way. If we try to push them in a certain direction with their activities and behaviour they tend to resist.
Allowed a bit of freedom in the right environment our children can make the best choices.
If you feel you can be a bit too pushy, that you worry a lot and that you struggle to watch and wait, then Mindfulness could be a great way to help yourself get better at it.
Taking some time each day to practise being still and watching where your thoughts go is a really simple way to start.
Set a timer for 5 minutes.
Sit upright and close your eyes.
Commit to staying there until the timer goes off.
Just by sitting still and resisting the urge to get up and be busy you will be training your brain.
It will be difficult to start with and all sorts of thoughts and feelings will try to pull you away. Stick with it though because by repeating this challenge regularly you will soon become so much better at it.
Parenting can be exhausting so get started today and see how much better you feel for a bit of time off. Your body can enjoy a physical rest and your mind can take some time to unwind. Both so valuable.
Book onto a Revitalise Session for more tips to help you live a more mindful life.