I love doing so many things in life but above all I love being a mum. Being a mum brings some really lovely moments. You can’t beat that feeling when they cuddle you and tell you that they love you. That moment when they are pleased to see you when you collect them never looses it’s special feeling. But parenting isn’t all warm fuzzy moments! It also brings really challenging times.
Most of my difficult moments with Noah come when he is over tired. When he becomes physically floppy and lolls all over things I find my irritability levels rising! I don’t know why it annoys me so much but it really does! Another thing that winds me up is a particular noise that he makes if he doesn’t want to listen.
I have discovered that the worst thing I can do it to get cross in these sorts of situations. It doesn’t solve anything. He gets upset and the whole situation gets more difficult. Keeping your cool is easier said than done. In a flash you can be giving threats of things you will never actually make happen.
I was talking to my friend about it yesterday and she told me that when her little girl was being naughty she threatened that they wouldn’t go on holiday. They both knew it wasn’t true and it got them no where!
Being mindful in these sorts of moments really does help. Next time your child does something that winds you up try these simple steps…
1) Take a few deep breaths. This really does help. When you breathe deeply is calms your whole being, body and mind.
2) Decide whether what your child has done is something you need to deal with…
If it is really naughty and something that matters then take your child somewhere quiet so that you two can connect and be without distraction. This way you will deal with it at your best and there will be much less pressure for both of you. I always find that holding Noah’s hands whilst I talk to him gets us both fully in the moment and listening to each other.
If it doesn’t matter then simply distract your child. I love to pick Noah up and give him a cuddle and then perhaps a tickle in this sort of situation. Remembering to keep things light and fun is a great way forward when things have become too serious. It gets you both back in a positive frame of mind ready to be nice to each other again.
Introducing a regular meditation practice to your day can really help you to train your brain so that you have the awareness to think first before you act. This always helps whatever situation you are dealing with. A Revitalise Day is the perfect setting to get to grips with meditation. Whether you are new to it or just need inspiring to do it more regularly it will certainly get you motivated. The day retreats are held in a beautiful farmhouse in rural Leicestershire and are a great break from everyday life.