Last night Martyn and I went to a party at a friends house. It was a great evening, I always love a catch up with the girls. Martyn enjoys a good dose of ‘man talk’ about cricket and a game of pool.
Before we went out I said to Martyn ‘lets make sure we actually talk to each other tonight’. We don’t manage that many child free nights out together and when we do we usually go out and speak to other people all night. I love catching up with everyone else but sometimes I feel like Martyn and I need an opportunity for a catch up too.
However it didn’t work out like that. The men stood on one side of the garden and the women sat on the patio and there was fairly limited interaction between the two groups. We still had a brilliant night but it got me thinking about how we socialise as a couple and whether we are mind-less when we go out.
The trouble with me is that I am genuinely interested in everyone I meet and last night I had some really captivating conversations. When you ask lots of questions and listen to others then time flies. All too soon It was time to say bye to everyone.
I would so much rather my evening flew by because I was having a great time. There is nothing worse than leaving a party feeling that time dragged. So there was no problem and I count myself very lucky. Martyn had a great time and we didn’t even mention the fact that we barely exchanged a word with each other.
The really good thing was that when we got home we did catch up. Because we had enjoyed ourselves at the party we were both happy and we both had news to tell the other. So all’s well that ends well. Today we went out to a village party on The Green and we actually sat and had some family time together!
So rather than being mind-less I am happy to think we are actually mindful. When we are out socialising we give our friends our full attention and I would never want to change this. We make the most of the opportunity. This works for both of us and I absolutely love that we are both confident to get on and mix. When we do get time as a family it seems really special and we both love this too.
Taking in our surroundings and the feelings of those around us is so important to our happiness. Mindfulness can really help us to develop a greater self awareness and can improve our social skills. Working out what works for you and your partner is really important, we are all different. Making time for your friends and time for your family can be tricky but a clear focus on those who we are with makes everything better.
Come on a Revitalise Day to get focussed on what is important to you. If your relationships need revitalising then this is a great way to do it. A few simple tricks can make all the difference.