Today my good friend Sarah popped over. She is a midwife with 30 years experience and in recent years she has trained as a Doula. She had been busy today writing a blog. As she knows I am a regular blogger she was keen for a second opinion. I was flattered that she wanted my input and I loved being able to offer some help.
My main function was typing up the blog that she had handwritten. I do lots of typing for work so this was absolutely no trouble for me. I also learnt a lot about the whole childbirth experience. It was really great talking to Sarah about her job in such depth, I really got a feel for how much she loves her work.
It got me thinking about how, for most of us, our lives are filled with hours and hours of work and yet those who we are close to often know so little about what we actually do. Learning more about those who we care about is really, really valuable. When we ask lots of questions we gain a deeper understanding of someone else. We learn what makes them tick and it really strengthens our relationship.
Relationships really are the key to a happy life. None of us can thrive without forming strong bonds with others. Not everyone finds friendship easy but it is something we can learn, just like any other skill.
Here are 3 top tips to get you thinking about your relationships and whether they work well…
1) Be genuinely interested. When we are curious about someone else and the things they do we find out so much more out. The more we know what’s going on for others the easier it is to be supportive. The more we think about others the less self consumed we are. Own own troubles are put into perspective.
2) Empathise rather than sympathise. Empathy is so much more effective and really can be of some help in our moments of need. When we empathise we put ourselves in their position. Our ability to do this means that we can see more clearly what they want and need from us. When we provide the right support then we feel happy with ourselves and how we have acted, this leads to a clear mind, free of worry.
3) Be genuine. If someone asks for your help be honest about whether you can give it. If you feel obliged and you only do it because you feel that you ought to then your friend will be able to tell. If you don’t feel able to help then a true friend will appreciate your honesty.
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