This week we have had a really great family friend, Andy, to stay. He live-in Australia with his lovely wife Dawn and we have known them for years. Dad went to college with Andy and they have stayed friends ever since. Despite Dawn and Andy moving to the other side of the world we have all got to know them as we have grown up.
I am sure I took this photo of them all when I was only in single digits age wise…
Noah and I have been to stay with them in Australis twice and they are the best at making us welcome. They have a pool in their garden and one of my favourite memories is drinking chilled champagne with them by the pool in the sunshine.
It was great to be able to do some nice things with Andy. They too used to be into horses as their children grew up and so taking Andy out on the cart was a great thing to do. You can’t beat an early morning adrenaline rush as you gallop across the fields!
Dawn couldn’t come with Andy this time. She has had a number of strokes following on from a snake bite and it means that traveling is much more difficult for her. Andy has been absolutely amazing through Dawn’s difficult times and has been the most supportive husband you could ever imagine.
He really got me thinking about the qualities we all seek in our partners. These were my top 3…
1) Compassion. Andy really manages to put himself in Dawn’s place. He thinks what she would want, how she wants things to be. When he came away he knew it was important that Dawn was somewhere she was really happy to be. He drove for 25 hours to drop her off with their son. If he can help he will. Nothing is too much trouble.
2) Reliability. Andy never lets Dawn down. He is always there for her and makes sure she is being looked after. When she was in hospital following her stroke he was always there twice a day doing everything he could to make life as good as it could be for her.
3) Affection. Never over the top but always really lovely. When Dawn is in her wheelchair Andy still makes every effort to be close to her. A little touch of the hand or a hand on her shoulder makes all the difference, it keeps that connection.
None of us know what is coming our way in life but having someone you love and trust with you on the journey is so valuable. Think about the people in your life and what they do for you. When you stop and think it really is quite amazing.
Valuing those around us is so important to our happiness in life. When we start to look around us we are less consumed by our own difficulties and more open to seeing everything else that is going on.
Mindfulness is great for teaching us to stop and notice what is going on in the moment. When we teach ourselves to take notice more often life becomes a lot lighter and nothing seems so daunting. Come on a Revitalise Day to see what a difference mindfulness could make to your life.