Since just before Christmas we have had Martyn’s daughter Lauren staying with us. She lives in South Africa so her visits aren’t as often as we would like. Having her here for a couple of weeks is a rare treat!
We have all had a lovely time whilst she has been here. We have enjoyed more family get togethers, more family meal times and more fun. The holiday was brilliant from start to finish.
So today, when she had to say goodbye and get on a flight home, we were all sad. Noah, who is 3, has been so close to her on this visit, they have played together a lot. When I picked him up tonight he told me that he didn’t want Lauren to go and that he loved her.
It got me thinking about the impact that an upcoming event can have. Obviously we have known that she was going to leave soon ever since she arrived.
Getting caught up in dreading a forthcoming event is so easy to do. It can occupy your mind to the extent that you fail to enjoy what is going on in the present. When you want to enjoy someones company for just a short time then this really isn’t great. When your mind is in the future you can’t enjoy the present properly.
If you suffer with recurring thoughts about the future and what it holds in store then mindfulness could be just the answer. By training your brain to focus where you want it to you can allow other thoughts to settle. Eventually troubling thoughts arise less and less often. A quieter mind means more time to enjoy what is going on.
So we all enjoyed Lauren’s company right till the moment she left. We still recognised that we were going to miss her and we left time for feeling sad but we didn’t waste a single minute of her company.
The process of training your brain is in some ways quite simple but it required commitment and dedication. Once you start on the process you will be amazed at the added value it gives to everything you do. You really will start to make the most of every experience and every moment with your loved ones.
Come on a Revitalise Day to get your mindfulness training on track! You will love the difference it makes.