Today my heart went out in sympathy to my 7 year old nephew. He had his hair cut yesterday and went off to school all excited having gelled it himself. He was feeling pretty cool as he got off the school bus, only to be teased by two of his class mates. By the time he came home he was in tears and had brushed out his gel, he felt pretty miserable.
So Mindful Aunty Alex stepped in with some handy hints for dealing with it, in the hope that bedtime was positive rather than filled with worry about tomorrow.
I thought of the happiest time my nephew had recently known. I instantly knew it was when he scored a goal at football on Saturday and was named Man of the Match. He was so excited and really proud of himself when he came home. I reminded him of this and it got a smile going straight away.
Sometimes in a difficult moment this is just what we need, a memory of a happy time, something that actually brings a smile to our lips. A memory of being happy with who we are.
I suggested to him that if it happens again he should simply remember that feeling he had on Saturday. He knows it will bring a smile to his lips again and then he can make light of it all, wander off and play with someone else. He is sorted, he has his safety plan. He went off to bed remembering a happy time and with the hair gel plan settled in his mind, equipped to cope with playground taunts.
So think of your happy moment. The last time you felt joy. The last time you felt pleased with yourself. Bring it to mind and feel that smile spread across your face. Next time someone gets at you bring this thought to mind. It will remind you of who your are, of what is important to you. It will protect you from being put down and make you see the lighter side of life. Chin up, keep smiling. We will always face difficult situations and we can’t change that. What we can change is how we react to them.
Come on a Revitalise Day to become more mindful so that when the world seems like a tough place to be, you have the tools to get you through with a smile on your face.