Last night Martyn and I went to see ‘Kick & Rush’, a local band, at The Anchor, our village pub. The Anchor is surprisingly nowhere near the sea, we are in Leicestershire so completely land locked.
The name apparently comes from the anchoring effect that the pub has in the community, keeping people together. As society has evolved The Anchor certainly continues to earn its name.
More and more residents in the village are working from home and the opportunity to meet with others and socialise becomes really important. The internet has opened up online communication with people all over the world but actually meeting and engaging with others is so important.
When we communicate online we tend to focus our engagement with others who have the same interests. Reading material that is related to our own lifestyle makes sense, we get out of it what we want.
When we meet others from our locality we find ourselves socialising with people from all walks of life. This can make for really interesting conversation and also helps to broaden our minds.
Last night, for example, I discussed farming, decorating, child care, event management, running, being a landlord, being in a band…and much much more. Had I stayed at home and logged on to my lap top or simply chatted with friends on social media it is very unlikely that I would have covered half of those topics!
When we communicate with others it is so important to understand where others are coming from. By meeting with people and chatting and being genuinely interested we deepen our understanding of others. We gain an understanding of their experiences and how this impacts on their point of view and behaviour.
When we are mindful we really listen to others, we take time to respond. Rather than leaping in with our own opinions we are able to wait and think rather than simply reacting. When we do this then we are happy with our behaviour. We don’t wake the next morning with that feeling of dread about something we shouldn’t have said, worrying whether we have put our foot in it.
Focusing on our breath is a great anchor that is used in Meditation and it works really well when we are seeking to be mindful in our daily lives too. Whatever situation we find ourselves in we always have our breath with us. So if your are in conversation and something gets your mind racing focus your attention on your breath. Notice whether it is deep or shallow, fast or slow. This will give you enough time to decide how to respond and as a result you we act in a way that you are happy with.
So treat every meeting with others as a chance to practice finding your own anchor. Learn to stay in control of your actions and you will find yourself in control of your life.