Today I was thinking about love. Since we had Noah our relationship has changed. Like all new parents are we talk about our child a lot and sometimes it feels like we don’t have an awful lot else to say to each other! Most of the time we just get on with it but every now and then I do stop and wonder if it is normal and whether we need to make more effort.
I was reading a magazine article yesterday that said it was really important for your child to see how valuable your relationship was and that you should always greet your partner before your child when you get home. Now, i’m not sure I could go that far, Noah always needs to first cuddle, but it certainly did me good to think about our relationship and how important it is to me. I really do need to make sure I always greet both of them properly.
At my cousins wedding I remember the vicar talking about relationships being like an emotional bank account. You need to pay into your relationship regularly and really don’t want to avoid going over drawn. It was quite a few years ago now but it has really stuck in my mind!
Appreciating each other is so important. Sometimes it is the small things that really count. Martyn is great. He is really supportive what ever is going on for me. At the same time he manages to do things like our food shopping and making dinner, which really lighten the load for me. He is also good at gifts. When it was our anniversary in April he bough me this mug…
So today because I was being mindful about our relationship I used the mug whilst I was working. I had a cuppa and one of my favourite ‘naked bars’ and it was a real treat. It was made all the better because I was thinking about Martyn as I took my break from work. I had a really warm happy feeling as I did so. Appreciating others really does make us feel good. Once you recreate that warm feeling when you think about the person you love you can recall it whenever you want and it will put you in a good mood all over again!
So when Martyn got home from work I really was in the moment as I gave him a kiss. I was really grateful when he made diner whilst I took Noah riding. I was equally grateful as he took Noah up to bed so I could do my blog. And now I really am feeling positive about our relationship. Just a day of turing my attention to it has made quite a lot of difference. Nothing was really wrong before but now it feels great and I feel very lucky.
So get your loved one back at the front of your thoughts. Stock up your emotional bank account. Feel good as you enjoy being in credit. Come on a Revitalise Day to learn how to get more out of your relationships.