Today I was looking at this picture that we have up in our house. I thought how amazingly happy we look on our wedding day as we were cutting the cake.
We are still really happy but it got me thinking about how much things have changed. Now we have Noah, and we both absolutely love him to bits, but he does change the dynamics of our relationship.
Rather than focussing on spending time together we do slip in to taking it in turns to babysit! Tonight for example Martyn took the opportunity to go to the pub to watch the cricket and I took noah out riding. This afternoon he had Noah whilst I was working. It works really well but it doesn’t leave much room for romance!
Some couples have a date night each week. We don’t do that and I don’t think that is necessarily the answer. The answer is to create a few moments of mindful attention together a few times each day.
So before you sit on the sofa and reach for the remote control or your iPad think about your partner and what they are doing. Would it be a good moment for a hug and a kiss? What about asking them how they are and really listening to the answer? What about simply making them a cuppa? Small acts of kindness and thoughtfulness can make so much difference.
So don’t worry if you don’t make huge romantic gestures towards each other, just make a small amount of effort a few times a day – it will make the world of difference.
Come on a Revitalise Day to get inspired to be more mindful. Once you get into mindfulness it will have a great impact on every relationship you have. You will love the difference it makes to your life.