Yesterday I felt a bit guilty thinking about how many glasses of wine I drank over the weekend. Noah and I had a couple of nights away visiting friends and it seemed like the sociable thing to do.
Although I enjoyed it, I can’t stand the thought that I have done any harm to my health, that is why it bothers me. Because I have MS my health has become my priority.
Mindfulness is all about being present in the moment. This means not ruminating on the past.
Why did I do that?
Why did I say that?
I drank too much.
I ate too much.
I was too pushy?
I was a pushover.
I shouldn’t have said that
…our minds can go on and on replaying events that have already happened. Things that we can do nothing about now that the time has passed.
We all have regrets every single day. They may be small things – like one too may drinks – but whatever the regret they tend to be persistent and ignoring them is impossible.
The harder we try not to have a particular thought the more it comes back to bother us. Especially, it seems, in the quiet of meditation.
Thinking back through your actions is sometimes necessary in order to come to a resolution. Once we have done this then we can let our thoughts settle in just the same way that that our less problematic thoughts settle.
So if something is bothering you at the moment then try this 2 step process…
1) Decide if there is anything you can do about it. If there is then get on and do it.
For my niggle yesterday I simply decided that I would commit to a few alcohol free days to give my body some time off. Having made this resolution made me feel better.
2) The Meditation…
Set a timer on your phone for 5 minutes.
Notice the rising and falling sensation in your body that comes with your breath.
Each time your mind wanders to the regret simply say ‘release’ to yourself.
Then back to the focus on the breath.
When the timer goes off notice how much more peaceful your mind is and be pleased that you took the steps to sort it out.
Mindfulness can help us to sort out the most complex of mental struggles. The techniques are simple, having the awareness to use your Mindfulness skills can be the tricky bit!
Come on a Revitalise Session to get started and to help you to make your life more Mindful.