Yesterday I was in town with Noah after work doing a few jobs and I met a friend who I haven’t seen for a while. She asked me how Martyn was and I said he was on his end of term school outing with the other teachers. They were at a bar in town having a good time and it was a lovely sunny evening, I was quite envious. I said this to my friend and she asked envious or cross?! She was only joking but it really got me thinking about our reactions to situations and how it can impact on our own life.
I wasn’t cross at all. Martyn has had a really hectic term and I knew it would do him the world of good to go out and relax and enjoy himself. But if I had been angry what would the use have been? He would have still gone out because he had told his friends that he would. I would have still been looking after Noah and doing some jobs. It would have just ruined my day and possibly have caused an upset between Martyn and I. It would have been totally pointless.
It is all very well reasoning it out logically like that but sometimes our emotions can get the better of us. Without really thinking it through comments that give away an underlying upset can reveal some resentment or frustration at some point. So recognising any such thoughts that arise is really essential to make sure that we are dealing with our emotions rather than bottling them up, leaving them to cause trouble later!
Labelling is a really great way to do this and it is something I have got into the habit of doing a lot. So when you spot a thought cropping up that is linked to an emotion label it…
Walking down the street in the sunshine holding Noah’s hand: Happy.
My horse standing on my foot really hard: Angry.
Seeing my lovely friend Hannah and having a good natter and a glass of wine: Love.
Learning to recognise our thoughts and feelings really keeps life lighter. Rather than becoming our emotions we are able to acknowledge them and then move on. Rather than becoming consumed by them we simply appreciate the emotion in the moment and then carry on with life without bottling the thoughts and feelings up for later. Give it a go, it really is quite liberating.
Come on a Revitalise Day to see how you could learn more mindful techniques to make your life a little lighter. The day is a mixture of meditation, mindfulness and healthy eating. It is the perfect time to relax and enjoy learning something new. The retreats are held in the beautiful Leicestershire Village of Walton on the Wolds and provide a real break from everyday life.