Today I was thinking about resolutions. At this time of year everyone seems to be talking about what they intend to do as they enter into the new year.
In my Mindfulness and Meditation sessions I often focus on intention. I ask people to think about who else will benefit from their meditation. Who will see the benefit of the calm and clarity that you create when you meditate?
It strikes me that if we were to focus our new year resolutions on how they benefit others then we will be much more likely to stick with it.
So my new resolution is to listen to others more and to be more interested in what people say to me.
I find that I often get so excited by conversations that I get carried away talking. If I focus on hearings what others have to say then they will feel the benefit but so will I. I will discover and build on the Mindfulness needed to stop and listen.
Have a think about how much your actions impact on others and then try to focus your resolution on your intention to make life better for others. Your relationships will prosper and you will feel great!
Hi Alex,
Your comment about getting excited and carried away in conversations really resonated with me. This is exactly what I do but I also have the problem that when the conversation has ebbed and flowed all over the place I often find it difficult to recall what either of us said and may miss key points. Do you find that too? Do you have any useful tips to pass on?
It is odd that I never have any problems when listening to the radio or watching TV. Maybe it is because in conversation, particularly at work, something someone says sparks a thought and I like to get my thoughts out there asap. Of course radio voices tend to be good speakers and with the TV there are lots of visual clues as to what’s going on!
totally! Slowing down and listening definitely makes it easier to remember everything. Maybe you don’t have the same difficulty with TV/radio because it takes away all possibility of contributing so you relax more?!