Noah, my 4 year old, has loved Beau the poodle from the moment she joined our family. Beau is a really gentle dog who is amazing with children. During our week away together they have become even closer.
It got me thinking about why their relationship works.
Beau is amazingly patient with Noah. He can lean on her, lie on her, pull her tail and tease her and she still doesn’t get cross with him.
Noah is a constant playmate to Beau. She can rely on him to throw the ball, to be game for a run around and to give him treats whenever he gets chance. He is fun.
Sometimes, however, she does let him know when he has overstepped the mark. Yesterday he was playing with a coat hanger pretending that it was hair straighteners and after a while she did a tiny growl to let him know that she wasn’t impressed. She doesn’t hide her feelings.
When she is worn out after a long walk she will take herself off so that she has her own space. She comes back when she is ready to play again. She knows what she wants.
If Noah is upset Beau can be relied upon to be a gentle comfort. She is soft, cuddly and generally relaxed.
So their relationship works because they know where they stand. They are both so honest in their wants and they make them clear. When they conflict they spend some time apart and they are both completely forgiving of the other.
Mindfulness is a great way to see our relationships more clearly. By creating some headspace for ourselves through meditation we can see things as they really are. When we see things with such clarity we can see what we want and how we can achieve it.
When we know our own mind better, then we relate to others in a much more effective way. It takes away all of the guessing games and makes us much more sure of how to make ourselves and others happy.
If you are having a tough time in a relationship at the moment then take some time just for you. You will be amazed at the understanding it gives you.
Try setting a timer for 5 minutes and sitting upright in a chair.
Focus on your breath.
Watch each breath from the very start to the very end.
Notice the pause at the beginning and the end of each breath.
Notice how you don’t have to do anything – your body takes the next breath all on its own.
How liberating is it just to be an observer? How could you reflect this ideal in everyday life?
Come on a Revitalise Session to begin on your journey towards more head space and better relationships.