Today Noah was helping his dad, they were getting in the gardening kit from the car. They had been to B & Q and Noah was so excited to be involved doing a ‘job’. He loves jobs. Cleaning, cooking, gardening, sweeping up, hanging the washing out – he loves them all.
So when does it change? Why do we get to the stage where a job is just a job? A chore even? We no longer grin from ear to ear at the thought of lifting heavy bags from our car.
Perhaps we loose sight of what is motivating us. Perhaps we loose clarity of thought, it is well worth noticing what we are thinking about whilst we do the jobs. Our mindset seems to be the answer to enjoying our jobs.
We are able to change our mindset by applying our attention to what we want to focus on, so motivating ourselves to do jobs and learning to enjoy them again is no different. It is perfectly possible.
So next time you do a job firstly think about your motivation in doing the job and then try to pay attention to where you mind goes whilst you are actually doing the job.
For example, next time you unstack the dishwasher think about why you are doing it. Go beyond the immediately obvious answer. Perhaps think about making sure you and your family have nice meals together on clean plates? Or to make sure you have clean tea cups so you can entertain your friends? Try to think on to what the job will lead to, the end gain.
Whilst you are actually doing the job try to keep your mind on the job. Research shows that we are at our happiest when we focus the task at hand rather than planning the future or worrying about the past. Perhaps this is why children love jobs so much, they simply think about the here and now.
Children also love treats. Perhaps this is something we loose as we get older, the ability to enjoy a treat. Try giving yourself a reward after you finish your jobs, it may just help you to enjoy them that bit more. A post job drink could be just the answer!