This morning Noah and I went to have our passport photos done. We need them for our visa’s for holiday and I was keen not to leave it till the last minute.
Rather than going into one of the photo booths (which I thought might be a nightmare with a 3 year old) we went into a local shop who take the photos and then get them the right size for you. It worked really well. Rather than spending ages looking at the 4 different options the lady simply took a couple and chose the best. Much less torment than when you sit there endlessly trying to decide which is the least awful! It also got me thinking about vanity.
I am often very critical of myself and the way I look. I think this is something that a lot of people suffer with. When I see photos of myself I usually look at them in horror and think that I look awful.
It got me thinking about an exercise that I did on a meditation retreat a couple of years ago. We were each given a rose and asked to look at it for a couple minutes. A couple of minutes looking at one rose is quite a long time. When the time was up we all commented on what we noticed about our flowers. They really were beautiful. The colours were gorgeous, the tiny little veins making up the leaves were amazing. None of us criticised the flowers. It was then pointed out to us that the flowers did have their imperfections. They had damage on some of the petals, holes in some of the leaves. We had all overlooked these small imperfections because we were looking at the overall beauty before us.
It was a really good lesson for me. It made me realise that our friends and family don’t look at us in the same critical way we view ourselves. They look for our beauty. We really don’t need to worry about our imperfections, no one else sees them as we do. We really are our own biggest critics.
So since that exercise I have been more comfortable with the way I look. Sharing photos of myself on my blog was a big step for me at first but now I realise it doesn’t matter if I don’t love the way I look in the pictures that I post, people are just interested to see what has been going on.
Try the rose exercise yourself. You really will be amazed at the amount of beauty you see and the imperfections you overlook. Then think about your friends, don’t you do exactly the same with them? The realisation that comes from this exercise can really help if you suffer with low body confidence.
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