This week I have been riding a friend’s horse for her whilst she is away.
When she asked me whether I would take Haffie out for her whilst she was away I was really flattered. She absolutely loves him to bits and it meant a lot that she trusted me to take him out.
So this week Haffie and I have got to know each other a lot better and we have become real friends. He has started to look for me when I walk into the field to catch him and he has started to know what I want when we ride. I have grown to trust him and to know the sorts of things that worry him. We have had some amazing rides.
So it got me thinking about trust and what an important role it plays in our relationships.
Most of us have lots of mental chatter going on most of the time. Before I started meditating my confidence with riding had really diminished over time. Rather than carefree galloping round the countryside laughing with my friends I had started to worry about everything whilst I was riding. I had started to worry about the horse tripping, or shying or whether it would stop when I wanted it to. This had a really negative impact on my riding as it made me tense and horses immediately pick up on this and wonder what is wrong. They then tend to get nervous and jumpy. Not great.
Mindfulness has changed everything. As I ride I am now able to be present in the moment rather than predicting disaster all the time. I can literally sit back and enjoy the ride.
Once you calm your mind by meditating regularly your mental chatter slows down. This leaves you with the head space you need to focus on what you are doing. I think about adjusting my position as I gallop so that my balance is good. I can let the horse go when it is safe in the knowledge that it will then be ready to slow once it has had a good stretch of gallop. I can enjoy the countryside, enjoy the feeling or the horse moving and feel the thrill of charging along. Magic.
So when you stop worrying about all the things that could go wrong you ride better. As you ride better, and enjoy it more, you want to do it more often and then your confidence grows. As your confidence grows you trust yourself more and then the horse starts to trust you.
This situation is replicated in everyday life in our relationships with fellow human beings. When we lack confidence this can lead to others lacking confidence in us too, people always pick up on it. People don’t confide in us because they don’t trust in us. Again, meditation can change everything. When we become more confident then it shows in our relationships. Other people trust us and we enjoy our friendships more. Everything gets better.
Mindful living really helps to grow confidence. When we are calm and present we are able to make better decisions. We are better at saying the right thing or sometimes recognising when it is better to say nothing. When we are happy with how we have behaved we have less mental chatter and we are calm. Calm confidence is a great attribute.
Come on a Revitalise Day to get you on the right track for quiet confidence in your life. It really could change everything.