When you are plagued with worry it can seem like the worst feeling in the world. Usually the worry itself does not lead to a positive outcome and it is simply a frustrating waste of time and effort.
I saw my sister earlier today, she is a teacher and is on half term. Despite the fact she has a week off she is still bothered by the fact that she has planning to do. I know that even as we were having Sunday lunch together her mind was elsewhere, probably thinking about a lesson in 2 weeks time.
I saw a friend this morning and she was telling me how she had made a conscious decision to alter her job role because certain elements of it caused her anxiety. Giving presentations to large groups of people was something that played on her mind for some time before the event, worry took over. She realised her life was better if she simply didn’t do it.
Making a conscious decision to change things is a great way to deal with problems if that is an option and it is what you want to do. Often though we are simply stuck with a situation, we need or want a way to manage our worry better.
For me the worst thing about worry is that it can stop you having fun. To have fun you really need to be present in the moment. I took Noah and his cousin up to the field with me whilst I was sorting the horses out this evening. They had so much fun charging about the field and playing games. They were constantly giggling. It got me thinking about how rare it is to see grown ups having so much fun. Children are so mindful, it keeps life simple for them and it does wonders for their relationships. We have a lot to learn from them.
Although children may be bickering one minute and crying the next, they have the amazing ability to recover themselves and enjoy life again very quickly. They don’t tend to hold on to worries about the future or regrets about the past, they simply move on.
If you have a worry that is rattling round your head meditation can do wonders to help you recover your mood. Learning to be mindful will allow you to get on and enjoy yourself again.
So if you have a worry that is on the go at the moment then try this…
Simply sit and focus on your breathing. Each time the worrying thought appears simply label it as ‘worry’ and then go back to focusing your breath. It may well happen time and time again but don’t let this discourage you and don’t see this as failure.
Each time you refocus your thoughts you are retraining your brain to concentrate on the here and now. By recognising the thought you are facilitating this training. By stopping resistance to the thought you are reducing the intensity of it. Keeping the label simple and non personal means you are avoiding getting caught up in yet more thought about it. Acknowledging it and moving on in this way is a really healthy way to deal with it.
Once you get the hang of being more mindful you will find that you will have so much more capacity to have fun. Life seems lighter once you learn the tools to cope with thoughts that get you down.
Come on a Revitalise day to see how mindfulness and meditation could do for you. The day is a lovely mix of meditation and relaxation. The food and location are amazing and offer a real day of pampering for your body and mind.