Last weekend I had some of my most lovely friends round for lunch and a play date. Quite a few of us went to school together and now that we have children this has added a whole new challenge to our weekend daytime meet ups.
When they children are pulling for our attention constantly it can make it really difficult to have a proper conversation. There is always an interruption. There is always someone calling out ‘Mum’. There is always a need to go and look after one of the children.
In this situation where our children try to compete for our attention it is so easy to get frustrated. The trouble is that if we lose our patience and get cross this just makes things worse. The children get upset and then we feel annoyed with ourselves for not handling it better.
If we can take a step back and think about it calmly then we know though that all they need is some of our attention, so that they feel part of what is going on.
So last week when things got difficult I went and got Noah’s farm set and brought it down to where we were chatting. We sat on the floor with the children and this helped to keep them focussed on the toys rather than them wandering off to other things. Creating some still in the room really helped.
Because we were all together the children were more content and once they settled to play we finally got a chance to focus on adult conversation. It wasn’t for long but it was well worth it.
If you feel that you need to learn to take a step back and deal with family situations more calmly then Mindfulness training could really help. The simple act of taking a few deep breaths is enough to make a difference.
For more advanced brain training techniques come on a Revitalise session.