Those who want to do well in business often join forums to make contacts and to promote what they do. Those who want to succeed in any field will often say that the way to do it is to ‘network’. It’s not what you know, it’s who you know. All of this can sound a bit calculated but only too often we see how connections can lead to benefits. it is easy to have low opinions of such hob-nobbing but try to think again, perhaps there could be a way of doing good by joining in with a supportive group. It doesn’t need to be money orientated and it doesn’t need to be financial gain that we seek, we can come from a place of wanting to help others.
When I had my baby boy I went to a baby group at the local health centre. Noah was only two weeks old on the day of the first session. I remember lying in bed feeding him and there were 15 minutes before the session started and I still could not decide whether to go. I’m not sure what was putting me off. Maybe I thought I had enough friends, maybe I thought my mum and my sister could answer all my baby care questions so I didn’t need a group. Something was making me resistant to going. Looking back I was only thinking about what I could get out of it.
Luckily something did make me go and thank goodness it did. I met a group of lovely new mums, we are all still friends and it has been great getting to know each other as our babies have grown into toddlers. I expect we will stay friends for a long time. Being in the group was amazing. Great friends for a start, who really understood everything Noah and I were going through from feeding, to nappy dramas, sleepless nights, the lot! A good excuse to sit and chat and to remember that we were not alone in facing the challenges of motherhood. There is a real sense of support amongst us even nearly 3 years later when life is almost back to normal! Even a friendly message can make a difference if you are having a difficult day.
I don’t think it matters what sort of group you join as long as it suits your circumstances at the time. It needs to be something you have a real interest in so that you are there to offer something as well as to benefit. It might be for weight loss, fitness, business success, addition recovery, to learn something new, anything. One of my favourites is my local Friday Night Red Wine Club! This has helped me to decide that Shiraz really is for me! It might be that you try a couple of sessions and discover that it is not right for you. Well, nothing lost, at least you tried.
It might be that an online community suits you better than going to a meeting, more and more of us find the convenience and security of this attractive and it opens up possibilities of meeting people who share your thoughts or circumstance but who live all over the world. We are so lucky that the internet is all sorted and there for us to tap into when ever we need it.
As humans we have survived through joining forces. Survival of the fittest should perhaps really be called survival of the groupies. Being part of a group may not be something you are naturally drawn to but through mindfulness and meditation you can come to think more clearly about how stepping out of your comfort zone may improve your life.
Becoming part of a group promotes strength. We build in confidence as part of a group that we feel comfortable in. We can become more compassionate and this really can be the key to happiness. We encourage each other and give each other with new enthusiasm. When you start to look out for others you focus less on your own troubles. When you help others with their problems or aims you feel good about yourself. All of these changes allow us to thrive, we go on and achieve great things.
Come on a Revitalise Day, learn how to broaden you mind and meet other like minded people. You will learn how to free yourself from restrictive thoughts. Learn the skills of better communication, see for yourself how joining up with like minded people can be an amazing experience. As you go through life your interests will change but an appreciation for the benefits of joint thinking will last you a lifetime.