Today I am really missing my sister, Hannah. For the last 2 and a half weeks we have been on holiday together in Vietnam. She lives in Melbourne, Australia, with her partner and their two children. Our joint holiday plan meant we could meet half way.
Usually when we see each other one of us is at home. Making the meet up a holiday was so much better because neither of us had to go to work or fit in any other chores. We were totally free to enjoy ourselves.
It was amazing to take some time to spend together and to spend some quality time with each others families. Although we are in good contact on FaceTime nothing beats actually getting together, especially with the children.
It really got me thinking about relationships and how we can care for them better. Here are my top 3 friendship tips…
1) Make time. Trying to fit in seeing friends and family can be a real challenge. Weeks, months or even years can fly by without us finding time for those who are really important to us. If you really value someone but you don’t see them often enough then make a plan. Commit to a date and book some time off. You will never regret making time for those that you love to be with.
2) Made To Measure. We all have different friends for different things. Make sure your ‘meet up plan’ suits you both. Vietnam worked really well for us. We both wanted a holiday. We split the travel. The location gave us just the right mix of activity and relaxation. We spent most of our trip near the beach which was perfect for the children. Thinking your plan through makes all the difference. You don’t need to to go to the other side of the world to make it work. A child free coffee or a family trip to the park might fit your friendship best. One size does not fit all.
3) Give each other space. However much you love your friends or family suddenly being in close contact for a lengthy period of time can be too much. Recognising this from the start can really help. When we were away we spent some time apart every day. Going off and doing our own thing for at least part of the day meant we were really pleased to catch up when we got back together later on.
Mindfulness helps our friendships so much. Rather than living life in a rush you can slow down and enjoy your time to the full. Learn to fit in the things you really want to do with the people your really want to be with. A Revitalise day will help so much with seeing things clearly and giving you the confidence to make positive changes in your life. Book onto the next day retreat to start seeing the difference in your life.