Recently my friends have amazed me. I’ve taken time to see them, really see them. They are beautiful, intelligent, caring and just so lovely.
Some of them I’ve been missing and only recently have I actually managed to arrange a night out, a cuppa and a catch up or a ride out together. It’s not through want of trying but our busy lives always seem to get in the way.
Sitting in a bar opposite one of my oldest and closest friends last night I was really struck by how beautiful she looked. She has recently changed jobs having made the decision that management was just too stressful. Although she was brilliant at what she did, she always fell into the trap of doing too much, spreading herself too thinly and not having enough time for herself. Two months into the new job and she was glowing.
After a glass of wine or two I was perhaps more open and I told her how radiant she was looking.
Our chatting went on and on, so pleased to have a good catch up. The secret was revealed! Eating healthily, less stress at work and less exercise! The last one may seem odd but she is like me. In days of old we both over did the running, a weekend wasn’t a success if we hadn’t run at least 20 miles. So actually a lazy weekend is a real achievement in terms of well being.
She has got her life in balance. The happiness she was feeling was infectious. She told me about her new relationship, everything seems to be falling into place.
I am absolutely convinced that her change has not come about by luck. She made a massively brave decision to leave her old job. She finally recognised what was grinding her down, interfering with her enjoyment of life. She saw past the Mercedes and the salary and recognised there were more important things.
The best thing about our catch up was that we were both really genuinely happy for each other and we told each other.
I’d had some really good bits of news yesterday too and we shared our happiness. I woke up this morning full of love. Telling someone how brilliant you think they are can fill you with happiness too.
Sometimes we need to see friends to get that warm feeling back. It can be hard to love ourselves but this is what we need to strive for to be happy. Loving others and creating that feeling is a brilliant start. The more we cultivate feelings of appreciation and kindness the less we have feelings of insecurity and worry.
So make the effort to see those friends that make you feel good and tell them that you love them. No matter how long it’s been, with a good friend, you will feel the connection and be inspired by them.
If you feel like you have lost that warm affection for those that you really know you love then mindfulness can help get that spark back. Be it with family, friends or a partner the feelings we have can make a massive impact on our behaviour and our happiness. Come on a Revitalise Day to get the skills to really appreciate those that you love.