Today we called in to see our good friend’s John and Sarah.
Noah got this engine drivers hat when we were on holiday in Dartmouth and John really liked it when he saw it. John is into his classic cars and borrowed it last weekend for his role as a wedding driver. It suits him perfectly and when we went round John and Noah had a bit of playful banter about John wanting to keep the hat. I said that John was envious of the hat and he corrected me and said that actually he was jealous and that was the stronger of the two emotions. He was joking of course but it got me thinking about the difference between the two.
So I looked it up and John was right to some extent. Envy is the miler emotion. It means “the longing for something someone else has without any ill will intended toward that person.” Jealousy is the emotion when you fear you may be replaced in the affection of someone you love or desire. So it is a stronger emotion but meant to be used in a different situation.
It strikes me that both Jealous and Envy arise when we are looking to what others have and to some extent getting caught up in thinking about it. We do this at the expense of focusing on and enjoying the present moment and what we have. Recognising the emotion when it does arise is often the only action we need to take to lessen the feeling and let it pass. Once we stop resisting it the strength of emotion subsides.
Jealousy and envy are simply thoughts. If we can learn to recognise that they are just thoughts then they need go no further. We need not action the thought we can simply recognise it and let it pass.
Training your brain with mindfulness meditation is a great step to take to learn to recognise your thoughts and get to know your mind. Once you get to know your mind you can avoid all sorts of heart ache because you can let your emotions pass rather than getting caught up in them.
Come on a Revitalise Day to get started with Your meditation. You will love the difference it makes to your life.