I’ve got a friend who stands out to me as being really kind hearted. She is generous with her friends, always brings something with her if she comes for dinner. Never forgets a birthday. She has time for everyone. Most amazing of all having joined the Mormon church she gives 10% of her salary to the church. She isn’t particularly well off but she does what she believes is right. It makes her happy and she swears that since she started making this donation she has never been so well off.
I have to confess that I don’t think I have the ability to hand over 10% of my salary to some one else or to an organisation. This realisation makes me question my own generosity. The thing is, I’m not a big church goer so giving to a church would not be for me. One size certainly does not fit all. We all need to find what makes us tick. Doing what another person does to find happiness will not necessarily have the same results for us.
My horse, Dexter, is now 24, which is a good age for a big horse. I’ve had him since he was 3 so we have years and years of shared experiences and I totally love him. He is part of the family. Anyone with a pet that they love will understand this attachment.
Over the last couple of years Dexter has really lost condition. Keeping him from losing too much weight is a constant battle. It’s a battle I have fully taken on and I now I pamper him with care and buy him the best food money can buy, and lots of it! Now specialist horse feed does not come cheap but to be happy with myself I know I need to do it, I want to do it. I could not bear to let him down now, when he needs this extra care. He has given me so many years of pleasure and asked for so little.
Part of cultivating a peaceful mind is doing what is right. If you follow your conviction you will take doubt out of the equation for yourself. Doubt plays a huge part in mental chatter for most of us. Did I do the right thing? Should I have done that instead? The questions keep coming. If you go against what you know is right you will be left with guilt as a recurring theme in you mental chatter too. If your mind can not rest your body will not rest well either and this can have all sorts of consequences for our health.
So doing good things in the name of a cause that you believe in really does lead to happiness. It doesn’t matter what it is as long as you know it’s the right thing to do. A mind free from doubt and guilt is a mind free to enjoy the lighter side of life and is worth almost any sacrifice.
Come on a revitalise day to learn the art of happiness. Focussing on our actions can be a really important step in achieving a quiet mind that is truly content.