This morning I was listening to a radio programme about the role of women in modern life. There was a lady saying that women who want to have a fulfilling career outside of the home need to learn to pass over some of the household roles that we take on. The message was that we need to share our responsibilities more, no one can do everything and nor should they expect to.
It struck a few chords with me. After finishing work this evening I knew I needed to give the house a quick clean as we have friends coming over. In my mind I had to do the vacuuming, get the nibbles ready and sort Noah out for bed too (all before doing my blog!).
Then, when I picked Noah up from pre school he was keen to help me with the vacuuming. It would have been very easy to let the control freak inside me encourage him to do something else so that I could quickly wiz round and do a better job of it.
Instead I accepted his help and let him do it. He actually did a really good job and I gave him plenty of encouragement.
When we take everything on as our responsibility it can cause us to get stressed. So next time you have a list of jobs piling up in your mental plan of action try getting rid of a few. There are often others wanting to help and when we are too fixed in our attitudes we fail to accept offers of help. Try a different approach – you really don’t have to do everything yourself.
Once you make this change life will seem a little lighter. If you have a tendency to take over then you could change life quite dramatically with just a bit more self awareness. Even if there are jobs you would rather keep to yourself, at least you will have a better attitude to doing them if you have chosen to do them.
Come on a Revitalise Session to see how you could change your thinking on so many aspects of life. Just a bit of mindfulness could give you more self awareness and this could help you to relax more and stress less.