Today Noah was lying on the sofa, just chilling out. I was doing jobs around the house and he was happy just lying there. He is a bit worn out at the moment and has been having some nights where he has woken up, I think it is starting to catch up with him and he just needed some quiet time.
It got me thinking about tiredness and how us grown ups cope with it…
I know whenever I run meditation sessions there are people who come who say that they didn’t realise how tired they were until they stopped. Most of us lead very hectic lives and we rarely take the opportunity just to stop and sit. We tend to carry on regardless and tell ourselves that we can cope. We probably can cope but the worry is that perhaps we are not enjoying life as we should if we are always worn out.
On my last Revitalise Day one of the ladies who came asked me about the position I was recommending for meditation. I think that a straight back is essential, the feet should be flat on the floor and your hands on your lap. She wanted to know why she couldn’t snuggle down on a sofa and get comfy. My answer was if want your mind to focus and pay attention so that you can train your brain you should sit in a way that reflects this. If you snuggle down you are much more likely to fall asleep and much less likely to get the full benefit of your session.
There is no good reason why you can’t build both types of relaxation into your life. I am certainly not saying that you should never get cosy on the sofa! Try to get some balance.
If you fall asleep each time you try and meditate then recognise this as a sign you are over tried. Try to get more sleep. Ideally at night time but if a daytime snooze on the sofa presents itself as a welcome opportunity then go for it!
Also try to fit a daily session of brain training in where you do commit to focus and paying attention. On these sessions sit up straight and be dedicated to staying awake and commit to the exercise that you have decided to do.
By putting in the brain training sessions your mind and body will learn to switch off and chill out when you want them to. This will mean that when you do get the chance to flop on the sofa you can enjoy the opportunity rather than grappling with a busy mind or a twitchy body.
Come on a Revitalise Day to get a head start on learning how to relax. There is so much that you can do to teach yourself to chill out, it doesn’t come naturally to everyone, a little bit of practise will be all you need if it is something you struggle to do.