This morning I was talking to my Mum about how busy our lives are and how we struggle to find a free day to spend together.
Spending time with my Mum is massively important to me and I hate to think that anything gets in the way of that!
Being TOO busy has become a real concern for me, and so looking at my diary has become a great evaluation tool – a bit of a measure of how i’m doing in the well being and happiness department!
I strive constantly for MORE FREE TIME. I want LESS CLUTTER on the pages that reflect my plans for the week ahead!
The trouble is I LOVE doing so many things.
So I want to do things with Mum, I want to spend time with my husband and son, I want to meet friends, I want to see my sister, I want to take my little boy to parties, I want to have people over for dinner, I want to coach mindfulness and I want a full time job.
So keeping my diary minimal becomes difficult!
And when it gets too busy I worry about how hectic it will seem when it happens and this creates mental chatter.
It is good to have an ongoing aim and something to make me reflect regularly on how life is going. So in away my busy habit is a tool.
Having this in mind means that I am learning to work with my natural want to say yes to everything!
Over the last couple of weeks I have been better than ever at a few selective no’s! I have been more Mindful and have not been making so many plans.
In times gone by I wouldn’t even have been aware of quite how busy I was or that it might actually be better to tone things down. Mindfulness and Meditation has really helped me to become more aware of the direction my life is taking on a daily basis.
Meditation gives me time to create some head space by letting everything stop and settle regularly. It also lets me see clearly the things that create my mental chatter.
If you feel that life passes you by in a haze of arrangements and appointments then stopping to take stock on a daily basis could do you the world of good.
Life is precious so it is SO important to make sure you are doing what you WANT to do with it.
Sit quietly for a couple of minutes and simply let your mind go wherever it wants.
Then look at your diary.
Over the next week are there any things you wish you had not committed to?
If so take note and commit not to making the same mistake again.
A bit more clarity could make all the difference to a better future and could mean you get more time with the people you love most!