Tonight I read Paddington Bear to Noah at bedtime. It got me thinking about the power that a little note can have. In the story when Mr and Mrs Brown see the tag around Paddington’s neck their hearts go out to him. Just as the note asks they take care of him. They rescue him from the busy London streets and they give him a home, they all get great happiness from their adventures together from that moment onwards.
A couple of weeks ago we went to our local Sainsbury’s. When we came back to collect the car this note was on the windscreen…
It was from my sister, Charlotte. Noah was so delighted with the note, it meant the world to him. She spotted our car in the car park and took the time to write the little message. Short and simple but it made his day and he has kept it safe ever since. He looks at it and smiles most days! It really did create happiness and it still does every time he remembers it.
So, inspired by these powerful notes I did one myself tonight. Mine was for my friend who has injured herself on holiday…
I wrapped up a couple of Liz Earle skin care treats in bright pink tissue paper and then used the brown paper as the top coat – perfect for my note! A mutual friend is going to see her tomorrow so I have passed it on and feel good for it. Thoughtful and organised.
Sometimes just making that effort to let someone else know that you are thinking of them is enough to make a difference. Whilst it is really likely to be gratefully received a lot of the pleasure comes from carrying out the act itself.
I can just picture the grin on my sisters face as she left the note for Noah. I know she will have got pleasure from doing it. I had a really nice warm feeling wrapping the bits up for my friend. I really want her to know that I’m thinking of her, I don’t see her that regularly so it was the perfect way to make contact. Often it really is the thought that counts. Kind thoughts certainly make us happy.
Try doing something kind for someone you know. Whilst you focus your mind on doing something for them you will no longer be focusing on your own worries. If you do it with a really genuine heart you will feel a sense of warmth, a feeling of kindness that is hard to beat.
When you focus on others you relationships get so much better. When we focus on ourselves too much we can become out of touch with our friends, family and colleagues. Your gestures don’t need to be grand but by reaching out to those around you your connections will strengthened and you really will feel happier.
Sometimes we can be so out of practise that doing these gestures can seem like a huge challenge. Try doing something thoughtful for another person every day for a week. Once you get into the habit you won’t want to stop. The repetition over the course of the week will begin to train your brain, just like any other habit generosity and kindness can be cultivated. Start small and always be genuine.