This morning I was on Facebook and I saw that an ex work colleague, Trevor, had made an amazing Christmas Tree out of garden canes. I showed Noah, my 3 year old, and we were both excited to have a go ourselves. Here is our effort…
People often ask me how they can help their children to relax and how best to stop them worrying. The truth is that children are actually really good at being mindful and with just a small nudge in the right direction you can get them right there, present in the moment. If they don’t warm to the idea of sitting and meditating there are plenty of other ways to keep them mindful.
Doing an activity together, like making something, is a great way to keep them focused on the here and now. That way the worrying thoughts that they might have subside all on their own.
Today I have been trying to keep Noah from the iPad because I felt that he spent too much time on it yesterday. Once we got into making the tree all of his nagging thoughts about wanting to watch his favourite programme subsided., so much so that he didn’t mention it again. We had a lovely time and loved the end product too.
Spending quality time with our loved ones is how we keep our relationships strong. When we have children it is so easy to fall into the trap of thinking that family time is expensive. Trips to the cinema, meals out and visiting attractions are never cheap once there are a few of you to pay for.
Sometimes there is nothing nicer than settling down to a joint project, it could be a jigsaw, a picture or a christmas tree. Focussing your attention on what you are doing provides you with some much needed headspace. Make sure whatever you choose to do isn’t too complicated. Start on it when you have time on your side so it doesn’t become rushed. So dedicate that bit of extra time to your loved ones and see how much closer you feel.
Come on a Revitalise Day to learn more about living a mindful life. If your children see you sitting to meditate and enjoying a calm mind they will want to do what you do, leading by example is the best way to encourage mindfulness in children.