Last night we had our friends Jackie, Harry and their 12 week old baby Angus to stay. It was really lovely to see them and we had an evening full of chatter. We talked about the challenges of parenthood for quite a lot of the evening!
Seeing Jackie and Harry with their new little one brought back so many memories for me. It struck me that if I had known about mindfulness when I was a new mum it would have helped me so much! Here’s why…
1) When you are mindful you can stay calm! This is such an important ability with babies because they pick up on your emotions, so if you get anxious they do too. This can result in a vicious circle. Reverse this and stay lovely and calm and your baby will calm down too.
2) When you know how to let your mind clear you can make better decisions. Having a baby is full of decisions, bottle or breast, sleeping positions, routine or not… Often there isn’t a right or wrong answer and it is personal choice. Mindfulness really does help you to see things more clearly and this means you are more decisive.
3) Mindfulness is all about being present in the moment. This has amazing benefits as a new mum. You totally value your time with your little one rather than worrying about things that are coming up or things that have already happened. They don’t stay little for long so making the most of it is so important!
4) You need a break! Being a mum is constant hard work, especially in the early days. Learning to relax is fundamental to your survival and sanity!
Try this exercise next time you have a moment sitting down – you can do this with your baby on your lap or not. You can do this with your eyes open or shut.
1) Take a few deep breaths – in through the nose and out through the mouth.
2) Let your breathing return to normal but continue to focus on it.
3) Notice the rising and falling sensation of your body as you stay aware of your breath. Enyoy the relaxation that your feel with each out breath.
4) Each time your mind wanders return your attention to the breath.
Before you finish just appreciate how much difference a short break can make and commit to doing it more often. It really will make you a better mum, so patient, kind and calm. Enjoy.
If you think more meditation and mindfulness could help you out book onto a Revitalise Session and see just how soon you could benefit form some small changes.